Ok, so I took Steve's (MakinTrax) advice, and went with the "springs dont lie" method. After doing the measurements and trying every calculator out there, and getting all sorts of screwy numbers... I measured how much the spring was compressing at ride height. I tried it will a few different spring weights (at zero preload), and got the exact same number every time. 375 lbs of force on the front spring, 562.5 lbs of force on the rear.
With 250 lb springs on the rear, I was getting 28% Droop. So doing the math, I should get 47% Droop with a 150lb Primary rate in the back, and a 100 lb Primary rate in the front. Its all starting to make sense now. Rogs numbers came out to a 95 primary (with my car being significantly heavier).
So now I just need to figure out what I want my secondary to be, and Ill be easily able to figure out the top spring to get the Primary/ride height I want. So now the question is, whats the best way to use the force numbers I have to find a starting point for my bottom spring?
If I have 1.5 times as much force on the spring in the back, would a good starting point be a spring that is 1.5x heavier than the front? Ie 250 F/ 375R. Or is this just going to change with tuning anyways, so it doesnt make sense to figure out the math at this point anyways.
Thanks for your help guys. Im going to run the single springs for thanksgiving (although they are a little stiff, at only 28% droop, but Ill be running desert anyways so it will be ok), and then dive into spring collecting in December!